My mother Nelly got married to my father "by proxy" as was the custom in those days - as it was deemed "not proper" for an unmarried girl to take a ship out to some far corner of the earth to join her husband. Thus the official ceremony took place with in The Hague with my Dad's brother-in-law (Wim Moeselaar) acting as the stand-in proxy while my Dad was somewhere in the bush in Uganda.